Saturday 9 October 2010

Love and Obstacles

Cynthia Nixon and family

October 4, 2010

This past weekend, the New Yorker held its annual festival, which -- as always -- includes a multitude of speakers and panels discussing a variety of topics. Top players in all professions were represented, including Stephen King, Malcolm Gladwell, Jake Gyllenhaal and Regina Spektor -- all chatting about themselves and their areas of expertise. Our favorite, though, would have to have been Cynthia Nixon on the panel discussion "Love and Obstacles: The Case for Gay Marriage."

Ms. Nixon, who is most known for her role has Miranda Hobbes in Sex and the City, and now is engaged to education activist Christine Marinoni, stole our hearts with her rather calm, well made argument. Not only does she make a good case, she makes an example of how to make said point.

“Gay people who want to marry have no desire to redefine marriage in any way. When women got the vote, they did not redefine voting. When African-Americans got the right to sit at a lunch counter alongside white people, they did not redefine eating out. They were simply invited to the table. And that is all we want to do. We have no desire to change marriage. We want to be entitled to not only the same privileges, but the same responsibilities as straight people.”

Source: Out Hero: The Cynthia Nixon Edition

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Anonymous said...

No, I'm not missing the point - there are no facts. Of course it's possible, but just because Hugh Grant did it that doesn't mean it's a fact.

Anonymous said...

Any shred of truth to it there might be is heavily embellished, I think.

Anonymous said...

10:52 and 10:58 - both posts make no sense and show that they didn't really read the posts or if they did, didn't understand them. No one EVER said all "gay men suck and fuck 24/7 ..." blah, blah. But to immediately jump to such over-defensiveness and anger is telling. But that's fine if it makes them feel better.

Anonymous said...

If this BV is really true, Jake has lost it. He's treading into George Michael territory. Can an arrest be far behind? That is if this is true.

Anonymous said...

10:59: I am a gay man and Ted is full of shit.

You are a straight woman whose knowledge of gay men and sex comes from porn and the shitty slash you read and write.

Sounds like this isn't the first time TT has done this based on that poorly written piece of fan fic so we should be hearing about his exploits all over the internet and rags like Travolta's spa exploits, the dudes can't all run to Ted with their stories now can they?

Anonymous said...

Of course it's possible, but just because Hugh Grant did it that doesn't mean it's a fact.

No one ever said it was a fact. Show me where someone said that. They didn't. ALL anyone ever said is that it possible, even plausible in response to others saying it was "ridiculous" and impossible.

Anonymous said...

Ted has even warned not to take the BVs so seriously. They are "entertainment" gossip, and I don't see the entertainment in them.

11:12, the implication is there. And don't be surprised that some men find it offensive.

Anonymous said...

11:14, stop making assumptions about people you know nothing about. Ted isn't writing about you, so stop acting like he his and getting all pissed off and defensive. Now you're saying it can't be true b/c we'd be hearing more about it, lol. Please. You wouldn't believe it if were written about a hundred times and you know it. You act like Ted has written dozens of stories about TT hooking up with anonymous guys and he hasn't.

Anonymous said...

10:59: I am a gay man and Ted is full of shit.

Awwwww, don't be so pissed because Jake loves sex with cute boys, lots of gay men are just like him :)

Anonymous said...

11:12, the implication is there. And don't be surprised that some men find it offensive.

It's not. That's YOUR interpretation and your spin because you don't like what you're reading.

Anonymous said...

What about LaOD? I actually thought Josh was rather funny in it. Kinda crude humor, but I think it will do well. Not sure if it's my cup of tea tho. :) Blue Valentine is, definitely.

Anonymous said...

11:23, quit assuming. You know what they say. A few people are interpreting it looks like.

Anonymous said...

It is obvious that some people have a problem with Ted's BV just because they believe gay causal sex is a bad thing and Jake wouldn't do something so "dirty".

Anonymous said...

Don't forget that wonder that it might be all made up too.

Anonymous said...

Ted has even warned not to take the BVs so seriously. They are "entertainment" gossip,

"Entertainment" gossip means that it is gossip about the world of entertainment celebs.

I agree with Ted that BVs shouldn't be taken so seriously - which is what the people who are getting so pissed off are doing. They're not only taking the BVs too seriously, they're taking them personally. And no one is forcing anyone to read anything written by Ted, btw. It's like the people commenting over at the E site - they're saying how everything is made up, b.s, etc., - but yet there they are, reading every day!

Anonymous said...

Well nobody said it wasn't interesting. lol

Also, the "dude" in the BV seems to have a problem with it being dirty too. lol

Anonymous said...

Also, why ridiculous wealthy Eddie Murphy would pick up a tranny from the street? But he did it...

I still think the "TT Alley Story" is a total lie,though.

Anonymous said...

Some people like that thrill, or just have to satisfy a quick urge. Totally alien to me.

Anonymous said...

Also, with a hubby, two or more kids, and a movie to promote, and satisfiying quick urges in alleys, it seems that our TT has precious little time to devote to family.

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Anonymous said...

Well, if it's not a stinky alley, who knows? Maybe with some geraniums growing on the fire escape, neat trash barrels, you could be convinced. ;)

destiny said...

Nobody is getting off on the idea of Jake having sex in a smelly ally, so please stop with that bullshit.

It is entirely possible that Jake would do something like that, plenty of men with money and power do things like that because they are deeply closeted, or get off on public sex and/or the thrill of getting caught. George Michael, Murphy, Grant, Kevin Spacy, Larry Craig, the married with children company executive from the South who was shot and killed by a cop when he stopped to have sex in a park in NJ while in the area for a school reunion.......

And it's not just the Toothy stories, don't forget the stories about him and Kiki supposedly liking to have sex in public places.

Anonymous said...

Ted isn't writing about you 11:58 and neither he nor anyone else is making sweeping statements about all gay men. If you don't think anonymous sex outside gay clubs happens (not the same as prostitution) you are naive. Of course, not all gay men engage in it. Also, of course heterosexuals engage in casual and dangerous sex, too. Go to a "singles" bar on Friday or Saturday night and you can see a lot of sleaze. But straight people don't have to hide the fact that they are straight b/c sadly that's considered the "norm."

destiny said...

Who the fuck is NETB?


Anonymous said...
Destiny, would you like to answer this one?


NETB is a woman who has been posting here and at OMG for years. She used to use the name NETB but now she changes her name practically every time she posts on OMG, and I believe she continues to post here even though she doesn't use a name because there are posts that sound like her posts at OMG.

Ted said...

Bitch Back

Dear Ted:
This is like, my quadrillionth email to you (though I know you won't reply), and while I am not a fan of your love for a certain bad Twilight actress, I will say that I am an avid reader of your Blinds. Subsequently, after eons of contemplation, my genius sister has deciphered who Toothy Tile is: Seann William Scott.
—ECC

Dear Cocky One:
Sorry to your sis, but you're off on Toothy. Though, not a terrible guess. Like, at all.


Dear Ted:
I've been thinking about beards lately. Does any B.V. have a new one—or ditched one?
—P

Dear Of Course:
Beards come and go, hon pie. Those actors who have to keep their playboy personas up have new gals every week!


Dear Ted:
Do you see an imminent split for Henrietta H.B. and her hub? Would it shock outsiders due to their evangelical beliefs?
—newly right-wing Wisconsin, Nan

Dear Dark Sider:
I don't think it would shock too many people...Just take a look at her hubby! Boyfriend oozes gay, gay, gay. Plus, their family is more like the Robinsons, not the Cleavers. Don't think another bombshell would shock America.


Dear Ted:
I'm wondering which Blind Vice you would most like to be exposed? Is it someone who is nasty on a daily basis, someone who is tomcatting around or someone outing themselves?
—Mell

Dear Interesting One:
That's a toughie. I think someone like Toothy, Nevis or Crotch-Uh-Lastic would do wonders for the LGBT community, but deciding to come out as gay or bi is a personal decision. I wouldn't want them to do it if they weren't ready. So I guess I'd want someone's vice exposed who's just a plain ol' bad person. Maybe Cruella St. Shackles?


Dear Ted:
I have to admit, I finally understand the mania behind Jake Gyllenhaal. Watching the trailers and clips for Love and Other Drugs has me almost as sprung on Jakey as I am on James Franco. So do you have any insider info on whether the flick is really as good as it looks? I haven't anticipated a movie like this in a long time, and I'm dying to know if me and my new baby kitten, Champ, should invest our hard-earned dollars on seeing it in theaters?
—Uf

Dear Movie Buff:
How many times do I have to say it? See this movie! Then see it again. You won't be disappointed with J.G.'s bod either, that's for sure.

Anonymous said...

11:58 AM - you are 10 years old, extremely ignorant or playing stupid because "your" Jake just can't be like other gay men.

Anonymous said...

What do Seann William Scott and Jake Gyllenhaal have in common, if anything?

Anonymous said...

Rumored to have gotten work by sleeping with a powerful producer.

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BT doing the digital dance with my 2 daddies! said...

Question destiny, this NETB was part of your "group" on OMG, I recall pics posted of you, SK, Wicked Tom and her after a get together. There obviously was a falling out and now she is posting personal stuff you and the others were dumb enough to share: Tom of Olay, PG on meds, SK nuts, and the fact that you and others have Ted by the balls with saved e-mails indicating he has been fed BS about TT from you guys, with the exception of this current BI and the coke off the penis and the strippers, he made that shit up himself.

Anonymous said...

2:23 Not all gay men are the same haus fraus.

Anonymous said...

^^^ Finally! Trolly admits that Jake is gay :)

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destiny said...

I think most of the personal attacks mentioned above are coming from Jack who is making up stuff or remembers/keeps tabs on everything any one has ever said on OMG.

I know Jack would like to think his rants are mistaken as coming from NETB and are therefore true, but that is sadly for Jack not the case.

However, I do think some of the complaints here about OMG are probably coming from NETB too.again, just not the ones listed above.

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Anonymous said...

Finally! Trolly admits that Jake is gay :)

LOL. I noticed that, too!

Anonymous said...

Awwww, poor trolly! :)

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destiny said...

I am not a defector. I post at both places and I am friends with most of the regulars at OMG.

I am however tired of people coming here to complain about OMG--they are stirring, mad at OMG and or do not have the balls to say something directly.

NOBODY at OMG posts at OMG hat way about WFT2 posters.

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Anonymous said...

4:28 PM - Our trolly is so fair - he hates everyone! lmao

Anonymous said...

4:28 PM - Our trolly is so fair - he hates everyone! lmao

Good point! Also doesn't understand the irony of calling other people "nuts" and "dumb." LOL.

Anonymous said...

Jack, a self-loathing gay man who hates women and can't stand the thought of icky women finding two men together sexy and beautiful.

Hates anyone who is over what, 25?

Gets off on trolling, and sadly is too dumb to realize no one cares.

Anonymous said...

NETB still posts at OMG.

Anonymous said...

NOBODY at OMG posts at OMG that way about WFT2 posters.

destiny, I'm not a BT believer or a J&A believer, but you are right about this.

Press Statement said...

Jeez, no wonder my ears were ringing today while I was out!

That was a fair statement, Destiny. There is/was no falling out, Jack, sorry to disappoint.
I can assure people that NETB is NOT posting about people behind their backs - especially not SpecialK who is a lovely person. I'm sure you all must be aware that people can try to mimic other people's posting styles to hide who they are and to cause trouble, and NETB hasn't used a regular name since due to harassment from awhile back, probably also from Jack. There's no reason to be discussing the posters over at OMG, only the topics. NETB knows nothing about Tom using Olay, that's pure Jack, PG speaks of her situation regularly. Just for the record!

Anonymous said...

Tom and PG seems to think that NETB is "trolling" on OMG using other names. From their tone one can assume there was some kind of falling out, I don't buy that she stopped posting under her original name due to "jack" because the posts ther were talking about were nasty towards SK and them.

NETB isn't the only defector, remember ECF and Chris, LOL!

Anonymous said...

There was no falling out, ever. There's no reason to have a falling out. SK's rules are that you can use any name you want.

If RDJ, Clooney, Pitt and Bridges do it said...

...what company or product would be a good fit for Jake?


Stars Behind the Commercials

Anonymous said...

Clothes, food :)

Anonymous said...

Clothes, food :)

Those make sense:) Especially food since he's such a foodie!

How about toothpaste? ;)

Atticus said...

Nah, food is good!

Anonymous said...

Atticus said...
Nah, food is good!


Atti, you should definitely be in commercials :)

Anonymous said...

:)

Anonymous said...

I was once at a gay bar with friends and as we were leaving, I turned to see were two women going at it in an alley. On my first visit of many to SF, I saw two women passionately kissing.

^^This. I don't get how posters here can't believe raw sex outside in an alley with a stranger wouldn't happen with TT or anyone. Once a friend of mine stepped out of the club we were at to get fucked by a guy against the back fence. Another did it on top of a car in the bar parking lot. I myself did it with a stranger in a random house's backyard near the bar. Those are just three of many many many incidents. Ted didn't say what day of the week this happened on. It could've been on an off nite like Monday or tuesday, where TT was lonely and bored and went there just to hang around. I imagine how conflicted he might have felt, wanting badly to go inside a gay bar to make a connection and socialize but knowing that he can't. So he hangs outside around in the general area lurking and hoping for a quickie. Actually I hope he does this again. Not to be mean but it would be a relief to everyone and him if maybe he got caught. Idk what it would do to his career having his mugshot and "Jake Gyllenhaal arrested soliciting gay sex" in all the headlines. Wasn't Eddie Murphy caught with a transexual (male) hooker and he swore he thought it was a woman? It might be better to get the angst over with and have the "worst" happen. Jake wouldn't have to live two lives anymore.

Atticus said...

Would they pay me in T-bone steaks?

Anonymous said...

"I myself did it with a stranger in a random house's backyard near the bar." Btw there were these two big "guard" dogs there. They just walked around and sat and watched us.

Anonymous said...

Yes, I'm sure it does happen. Couples in love/lust who can't keep their hands off each other too, not just strangers looking for sex. It may be true, this BV. But at first, it sounded a little made up. But who knows.

Anonymous said...

Atticus said...
Would they pay me in T-bone steaks?


LOL. Anything Atti wants, Atti gets :)

Anonymous said...

Btw there were these two big "guard" dogs there. They just walked around and sat and watched us.

LOL. Imagine what Atticus has seen!

Anonymous said...

lol

Anonymous said...

No wonder he humped that male dog stranger at the dog park.

Anonymous said...

I always wonder what Atticus was thinking when his Daddy pulled him off of the other male dog, like "WTF? Let me finish you bastard." Poor Atti didn't get to do the deed.

Florida Tom said...

Anonymous said...
Tom and PG seems to think that NETB is "trolling" on OMG using other names. From their tone one can assume there was some kind of falling out, I don't buy that she stopped posting under her original name due to "jack" because the posts ther were talking about were nasty towards SK and them.

NETB isn't the only defector, remember ECF and Chris, LOL!


I have never said that. I have no clue what NETB is doing or when she posts. I met NETB and liked her very much. I think her way of see ing J and A may have changed but I have no clue what she is doing or what she is posting. Hi NETB if you are out here. Hope you are well.

Florida Tom said...

destiny said...
I am not a defector. I post at both places and I am friends with most of the regulars at OMG.

I am however tired of people coming here to complain about OMG--they are stirring, mad at OMG and or do not have the balls to say something directly.

NOBODY at OMG posts at OMG hat way about WFT2 posters.



I totally agree Destiny. I am not sure where the friction is coming from but I doubt it is coming from any regulars. Just folks trying to stir up some trouble doesn't doesnt really exist.


What is up with The Tom of Olay thing. I think it is kind of funny certainly doesn't offend me. Crest, Old Spice and Irish Spring would be more fitting. I intend to age gracefully. Me and Jamie Lee think alike:-)

Anonymous said...

Whatever happened to Sienna who used to post here and at OMG. She was friends with with Wicked (and SK)? Is she the one posing as Amy?

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Anonymous said...

Well I think this weekend will be the test of the Jake/Taylor showmance. Ms. Swift is set to appear at some Teen Awards on Sunday in London and someone said the other day that she was scheduled to fly out on Friday. If Jake is still in London (he's scheduled to start do TV interviews on Wed in NYC) and we get the "suprise pap pics" and the Twitter sightings, you know that by next week the rag mags will have the London getaway story and how Jake waited for Taylor to get there so they could have another ice cream date. If that does happen, that means Jake purposely stayed in London to spend the weekend with his new prom date and further the showmance. Not only do I think that the whole Taylor Swift thing is embrassing and desperate looking for Jake, but I'm surprised that he and his PR would still be committed to it after this has made him a laughing stock. Even gossip sites that promoted Reeke are laughing at him. I agree with the person who said that Jake is becoming known by who he's dating rather than being known as an actor.

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Anonymous said...

10:58 pm, you are a rude, moronic asshole. If you are so opposed to what is said here about Jake, then leave and don't let the door hit you on the way out.

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prairiegirl said...

I strongly believe it is Jack and/or this Profit Girl who comes onto OMG and has been using the meds, Oil of Olay, etc as a form of personal attack and was also on here not that long ago, announcing how he or she saw us OMG'ers at the NYC Film Festival. Bragging about their spying. How stalkish was that? Why this person didn't come up that night and introduce themselves, I have no idea.

Well, heads up. We had heard that Jack was probably going to be there too that night and we were on the lookout as well.

For the record, I could care less who knows what med I use, what dosage or how often. I'm not ashamed of it and hey; it helps me out. Better to take it and feel 100% better than to not take it and be one big ol' hyperventilating Panic Button, ramming up all of your's health insurance premiums by my needless trips to an emergency room because I feel like I can't breathe. Eh? Which would you rather have, Jack? So go ahead and use it all you want. The makers of my med will thank you with every mention - it's called free advertising.

Anonymous said...

When it comes to sex no one can predict what a persons predilections are. There are too many examples to list of men getting making poor choices even when they had much to lose. And we know that Jake and Austin had a break up at one point because Goose was sick of the public sex. Toothy wants to do it everywhere except in bed and in private. Whoever said it in an earlier comment was right. The thrill comes from almost being exposed. Ordinary sex is not enough.

prairiegirl said...

Whatever happened to Sienna who used to post here and at OMG. She was friends with with Wicked

No.

And while Tom feels the way he does, I know it's netb who comes on here and has dissed several of us regulars from OMG. Then she goes over to OMG and still talks to us like we're still friends! Her and I had a falling out, yes. I can only speak for myself. It's not a secret. And I wouldn't talk about it but I am sick and tired of seeing the slandering of some OMGers going on over here from her typing fingers. I have let it go many a time but now I've had it. And the fact that this personal attacking has gone on with the idea that OMGers don't see it is laughable. There's no drapes on this window - we all can see it.

It's not good to air out dirty laundry but sometimes tit for tat needs to be. Only I'm not going to do it on OMG; I've come over here to the source and slapped my name on it. Let the chips fall where they may. I have nothing to lose anymore.

Anonymous said...

Well, heads up. We had heard that Jack was probably going to be there too that night and we were on the lookout as well.

LOL what exactly would you be on the lookout FOR? Someone wearing a sandwich board that read "I am Jack the troll" ?

Anonymous said...

LOL 1:07am. Maybe the knife, chains and hood weren't that obvious.

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Anonymous said...

he's scheduled to start do TV interviews on Wed in NYC

Letterman?

Anonymous said...

If that does happen, that means Jake purposely stayed in London to spend the weekend with his new prom date and further the showmance.

Not true because Maggie, Ramona, Peter and very likely Naomi are in London too.

BT said...

Woohoo! Daddy got a beard close to my age and she can sing!

PR said...

Maggie, Ramona, Peter and very likely Naomi are in London too

Don't you just love such coincidences?!

Anonymous said...

Hi NETB if you are out here. Hope you are well.

Hi ((((Tom)))). I knew you wouldn't believe these rumors. I'm doing fine. I have never personally attacked anyone over at OMG, unless I felt I was being personally maligned. I don't know who's attacking me either, but there have been. I don't know what PG is talking about, we have never met.

Well, at least the air is cleared. I don't know how I feel from day to day about J&A's relationship, sometimes I think they're on, other times not. While I may have disagreements about that in posts, I have never, ever attacked anyone unless it was in response to one against me.

Anonymous said...

^^And I certainly would never make fun of someone for a personal health situation, ever. I'm not going to carry on anymore about this, people are going to think what they think, regardless, I guess. If there was any disagreement, it's been greatly exaggerated and there is no falling out with anyone, at least from my point of view.

Anonymous said...

Aren't Michelle and Matilda in London as well. Maybe Jake and Annie will get to hang out with Michelle and little Heath.

Of course there will be Tay Tay. Maybe Matilda can teach Tay Tay how to deal with real heartbreak like a mature human being.

Anonymous said...

If there's a "personality conflict", with one or two individuals and me, fine, that happens. I accept that. But don't interrupt my posts with ridicule and calling people trolls. Grow up.

Anonymous said...

Aren't Michelle and Matilda in London as well.

Yes.

Anonymous said...

One more thing - PG and NETB have never met, don't correspond by email, have never spoken on the phone, nothing. There was never a falling in to fall out of, so I don't know where all of this "falling out" talk is coming from. Just misunderstandings from blogs posts, apparently.

Anonymous said...

Aren't Michelle and Matilda in London as well. Maybe Jake and Annie will get to hang out with Michelle and little Heath.

Anne is in NYC already. There was a sighting of her yesterday.

Anonymous said...

BT said...
Woohoo! Daddy got a beard close to my age and she can sing!


LOL. I had the same thought, BT! What a good Daddy he is to get a playmate for you! Although, tbh, I think you sound more mature ...

tweet said...

Eric_Dulany: Just saw #Jake #Gyllenhaal at London Heathrow airport
about 1 hour

Anonymous said...

^^Jake probably spent some days with his family and maybe M & M. He's probably heading back to N.Y. for promo work.

Anonymous said...

A little questionnaire for WFT2 posters:

Who thinks Jake is a good actor and/or likes him as an actor? I know most seem to be interested in his private life, but I'm curious.

I know I like watching him, but I think he could give more if he wanted to.

Anonymous said...

I'm guessing Toothy's latest antics put a quick end to the budding romance with Tay Tay.

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