Sunday, 2 October 2011

'Gay closet is eating away at your soul'

Sean Maher
Sean Maher

“I was nervous coming here today because I’ve just never talked about it,” Sean Maher says, while sitting down to chat at Little Dom’s Italian bistro in Los Angeles’ trendy Los Feliz neighborhood, the area where the actor lives with Paul, his partner of nearly nine years, and their two children, Sophia Rose, 4, and Liam Xavier, 14 months. “But, it’s so liberating. It was interesting to be coming to have a conversation that I was always afraid to have.” Despite his trepidation, he adds with a big smile: “This is my coming out ball. I’ve been dying to do this.”

“I’ve never discussed it publicly,” the 36-year-old continues. “I’ve never been asked about it publicly, but I would be lying if I said I didn’t paint a different picture.” Maher says that not coming out wasn’t so much a choice as much as it was a reality of the business when he first came to L.A. fresh out of college back in 1997. Publicists working with him during his first Tinseltown role as the title character on Fox’s short-lived cop drama Ryan Caulfield: Year One assumed he was straight — and he didn’t tell them otherwise, out of fear. “I’m 22, I move to L.A., and it’s such a cliché, but the day I arrive, publicists from the show took me out to The Ivy for lunch,” he remembers. “They’re telling me, ‘You know, gosh, we’d really appreciate it if you could keep your girlfriend on the side because we want to appeal to the female demographic of the show.’”

Granted, Maher could have corrected his handlers, but in that instant, he decided not to. “At that moment, I didn’t think to say, ‘Oh, I’m gay,’ because right before I left New York [where he went to college at NYU], I had my manager tell me: ‘You need to get a girl on your arm or people will start talking.’ I remember telling him: ‘I’m gay.’ He had no idea. And he said: ‘All the more reason to get a girl on your arm.’ My agent was also like, ‘It’s best if you keep your options open. Maybe bisexual?’”

Despite pressure from his manager and agent, both of whom he has since parted ways with, it was ultimately Maher’s decision to stay in the closet, out of concern that he wouldn’t otherwise be able to book leading-man roles. “I kept thinking, This is my first show, I don’t want to get fired,” Maher says. “I’m thinking, What is the potential that if they caught wind that they had cast a gay lead actor that they would fire me? I was young, I was 22. I didn’t know anything. So that sort of started the idea of, okay, well, I’m working a lot, I guess I’ll just keep that gay part of my life on the back burner for now. I went so far as to sleep with women a couple times. It was a very confusing time for me.”

But being in the closet tormented Maher. “It was so exhausting, and I was so miserable,” Maher says. “I didn’t really have any life other than work and this façade I was putting on. So I kept my friends from college [where he was out] separate from my work friends, and that was very confusing. I just kept going on and on painting this picture of somebody I wasn’t. I didn’t have time for a personal relationship anyway. And you just don’t realize that it’s eating away at your soul.”

Although there have been famous cases of homophobia in Hollywood (ex. when Isaiah Washington called fellow actor T.R. Knight a gay slur on the set of ABC’s Grey’s Anatomy and was subsequently fired), Maher says he never encountered much hostility — mostly because he was never out and was very adept at acting straight. “Because I was never out, I was never addressed in a negative way to my face,” Maher says. “Although I witnessed a lot of it, whether it be making fun of gays or gay jokes. I just bit my tongue or looked the other way. That was part of the reason that I didn’t come out earlier — because there was an energy on set, and I felt like my being gay would have offset that, especially with the crew.”

Does Maher regret spending 14 years in the closet professionally? “I don’t think I have regrets,” he responds. “I do believe that sort of this journey took me to the place where I got and I don’t think I would feel so strongly about doing what I’m doing now had I not suffered for the years that I did.”

Having a family is what ultimately what made Maher want to be honest about his sexuality. “I have these beautiful children and this extraordinary family,” Maher says, “and to think in any way shape or form that that’s wrong or that there’s shame in that or that there’s something to hide actually turns my stomach.” Maher kept thinking about what daughter Sophia would say when she realized he was closeted professionally. “What would she think if I said, ‘Oh honey, you can’t come with me to work because they don’t know I have an adopted daughter and they don’t know that I’m gay.’ My children and our family, I’ve really never been as proud of anything in my life. I couldn’t be happier at this point in my life, and I feel like we’ve created this pretty extraordinary family.”

In the end, coming out publicly is what Maher feels he needed to do to tie his life together, personally and professionally. “Creatively, I feel so much more open and free, and I am so happy on The Playboy Club,” he says. “I think it’s because I’ve never been so open on set. All of the relationships that I have off-camera, I never would have allowed five years ago. It feels so liberating.”

Source: 'Playboy Club' star Sean Maher opens up about his sexuality: 'This is my coming out ball'

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Jackie said...

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Anonymous said...

Congratulations Sean! :)

NYC said...

IsaacRichard Isaac Richard
Oh and last night Jake Gyllenhall was at this awful pop up opening I went to and he was way gross IRL
10 hours ago

MV said...

sethaltman Seth Altman
Harvest Festival. Also in attendance are Maggie Gyllenhal and Peter Saarsgard. (@ M. V. Agricultural Hall w/ 2 others) http://4sq.com/nbEivp
20 hours ago

Anonymous said...

pidginperfect Pidgin Perfect
Very impressed with the latest in the @BOFFO_NY pop up series in NYC. Collaboration between #architecture and #fashion PLUS Jake Gyllenhaal!
39 minutes ago

BOFFO_NY New York City - Non-profit arts and culture organization.

reposting said...

Steam-powered

Posted: 1:54 AM, October 2, 2011

Jake Gyllenhaal had hoped for a nice, relaxing steam when he turned up at the 10th Street baths last week -- but arrived to find the place packed with power players in robes. Organizers of Elit by Stoli’s male-only gathering had taken over the place, with white towel-wearing guests including Nobu’s Richie Notar, venture capitalist Adam Dell, Niche Media founder Jason Binn, David Rabin and Lance Broumand. We’re told they, ahem, “let it all hang out.”

http://www.nypost.com/p/pagesix/steam_powered_Ag01XaZAZytUkCHpHTmcAP

Anonymous said...

Oh no, Jake don't learn from Travolta!

Austin said...

Time for my Texas Longhorns to whoop up on the Cyclones. Hook Em Horns.
15 hours

Austin and Sophia in Texas? said...

calliealexa callie thomson
@SophiaBush met paul johansson tonight. i think you and the rest of the cast need to warn us about how fucking cool & charming that man is.
10 hours

hannahrodgers Hannah Rodgers
@calliealexa i'm assuming sophia and austin left to go to texas together?? so i wonder if that's why he left or if he didn't know either.
10 hours ago

@calliealexa
@hannahrodgers i think it was a combo. soph said her flight was early so he probably left because of that + not knowing.
10 hours ago

Anonymous said...

Looks like no one told Austin and Jake about that babymoon thing!

Anonymous said...

An Encounter with Mr Gyllenhaal

Some days I remember that anything can happen in New York. Just when you really need to be woken up, New York obliges in one form or another. But she’s a fickle mistress – your wakeup call could range from the unpleasant (taxi driver locking the doors and refusing to go the “wilds” of Brooklyn at 2am despite the fact you are alone, drunk and in possession of a mangled umbrella entirely incapable of shielding you from the unpredicted deluge of dirty rain), odd (that guy with a cat on his head who incidentally has now migrated up Broadway all the way to SoHo) or the swoon-inducing: Jake Gyllenhaal quietly eating breakfast in my regular cafe. Those of you who know me will realise that this event is like some kind of personal milestone for me – he is one of the few people I would actually care to meet, the others being David Lynch and Hans Blix. Yes, Hans Blix. And possibly Mark Kermode.

Anyway, after a meeting on Thursday morning, I decided that I needed the type of reliably strong coffee which only this particular cafe* can supply. There was a lineup out the door and so my colleagues abandoned me to my fate. I hope they regret this now, because as I stood in line I saw a vaguely-familiar looking guy sitting by the window. When I realized it was Jake Gyllenhaal I immediately started looking anywhere but at him, as there was a kind of rising estrogen temperature in the room, a lot of giggling and trying to move up in the line to get a better view (which, apart from being mortifyingly embarrassing, is very annoying when you actually REALLY NEED YOUR COFFEE RIGHT NOW, GYLLENHAAL OR NOT).

As I looked back, expressionless, Jake looked right at me, in the eyes. I was very careful not to let any kind of expression cross my face (“Be careful,” warned my friend later. “First he’ll take your soul… then your apartment”). I probably should have smiled like a normal human, not stared coldly like Patrick Bateman. I glanced away and then looked back. Our eyes met again and we stared for 3 seconds. This sounds like the beginning of a romantic comedy, but in reality, it was almost a careful negotiation, like he was daring me to move suddenly and unleash chaos. I have the terrible feeling that my attempts to radiate coolness yet approachability, kind of “Hey, I really admire your political activism and your intelligent role choices and don’t worry I’m not going to throw myself at you from across the room,” unfortunately telepathically communicated “Dude, you’ve obviously been sitting there with your Macbook for like 3 hours now. Your coffee is cold. I’m wearing killer heels and just want to sit down” instead.

So as usual my tactics backfired, and whether he was being polite or quite possibly becoming increasingly terrified of the estrogen meter reaching critical levels, poor Jake started packing up his Macbook and his iPod and carried his dishes over to the counter. At this point it briefly crossed my mind that this might very well be my only chance ever to strike up a conversation with him, but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. Besides, since he was in possession of a pair of (very attractive) glasses, it’s quite possible that he hadn’t actually seen me at all, and had merely been staring into space trying to decide whether he wanted the rest of his croissant or not.

Regardless, thank you New York for reminding me that strange things can happen. And Jake Gyllenhaal if you read this, please know you never have to give up your seat for me – oh and thanks for supporting Greenpeace. We appreciate it.

This entry was posted on Sunday, October 2nd, 2011 at 1:08 pm

http://adelemajor.com/?p=1071

Saturday said...

New York on Saturday night (01 Oct 11) to honour STING on the eve of his 60th birthday

The Police star reached the milestone on Sunday (02Oct11) and he celebrated with a lavish birthday concert in the Big Apple in aid of local charity the Robin Hood Foundation.

The gig at New York City's Beacon Theater included performances from Joel and Wonder, as well as actor Robert Downey, Jr., will.i.am and Mary J. Blige...

Famous faces in the audience included Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson, Jake Gyllenhaal, Darren Aronofsky and Melanie Griffith, while Sting and his wife Trudie Styler also invited 32 members of the Royal Scots Dragoon Guards, who have all completed missions in Afghanistan.

Anonymous said...

“Dude, you’ve obviously been sitting there with your Macbook for like 3 hours now..."

Jake's not interested in spending time with hubby or 4 BT's? More like the guy is single!

Anonymous said...

Jake started packing up his Macbook and his iPod...

He can't stay away from OMG!

Anonymous said...

Jake's not interested in spending time with hubby or 4 BT's?

Just 3 BTs - babymoon is for BT4.

2:53 PM said...

2007 October BT1
2009 January BT2 & 3 (twins)
2010 August BT4


Oops, sorry, babymoon is for BT5.

Anonymous said...

Question: were posters who defend insane theories always like that?
I love gossip and learning about Hollywood fakeness, but what I'm really interesed in is the TRUTH behind PR smoke and mirrors. I've followed J&A gossip because I was interested to find out what's really going on.
What about J&A&BT supporters? Were they ever interested in the truth? Or just wanted Ted to be right and J&A to be together?


Hard to tell becuse during Reeke time most people didn't really question J&A relationship. Right now Special K and regular OMG posters have no problem lying in order to support their "J&A are still together" opinion - they aren't interested in the truth and facts/"facts" posted by them should be double-checked.

Anonymous said...

2009 January BT2 & 3 (twins)

Twins??? Twins??? How on the Earth... oh forget it.

Anonymous said...

Twins??? Twins??? How on the Earth... oh forget it.

Did you not know? They are building a child army to rival that of Brangelina! The war of the Hollywood kids is coming! It's gonna be a reality show on TLC once Toddlers and Tiaras ends. It's gonna be epic!! My money is on Maddox. That dude is wily and cunning. ;)

Anonymous said...

LOL :)

Anonymous said...

Ok ok, I want to hear morw about Jake at the 10 Street Baths from the last post. I WANT TO HEAR MOOORRREEEE!

few days ago said...

imrealBATMAN Elizabeth
RT @BenCapozzi: Jake Gyllenhall goin' to the Cafe at MoMA. http://yfrog.com/kg1gpbbj
38 minutes ago

10th Street Bath said...

I WANT TO HEAR MOOORRREEEE!

Jake looks fabulous in white towel!

CruisingGays.com said...

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Facilities: Very nice, friendly management. They give robe, towels, slippers, lockers. Two saunas, one steam room

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Jake said...

Nudity / Sexual Policy:Allowed on Sunday mornings.

Thanks for the tip!

10th Street Bath regular said...

Jake looks fabulous in white towel!

No need for the towel on Sundays, but they are great for hiding wandering hands in the steam room!

Anonymous said...

There are now TWO men-only times:
Sunday mornings 7am-2 p.m.
Thursdays noon-5 p.m.


Wonder if last Thursday was the day Jake turned up?

10th Street Bath regulars said...

We don't steam and tell!

Anonymous said...

LOL!

Anonymous said...

I hope Jake will make great new, very clean friends :)

Anonymous said...

Look who was seen at 10th Street Bath

Anonymous said...

On their Facebook page, the Baths have pictures of some celebs. One of them is Ryan Gosling. Wonder if Ryan is a regular on Sundays!

http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.119156521469424.25121.119150301470046

Anonymous said...

Look who was seen at 10th Street Bath

LMAO!

Anonymous said...

On their Facebook page, the Baths have pictures of some celebs.

See, Jake goes there to discuss art and entertainment business.

Datalounge said...

I used to love the 10th Street Baths back in its single-sex days. Lots of immigrant types and old Polish and Russian guys, gay men, young old, etc.

Everyone was naked, but the place was pretty much sex-free, except for the Russian female masseuses (NOT massage therapists) who gave hand jobs and blow jobs for $25 to $50 to the straight men who wanted them.

I used to get massages from the male Russian masseurs, who appeared to be somewhat homophobic. There was one very young hot to-die-for guy who was very surly and would be extremely rough with the massages he gave me, like he was furious to have to work on a fag. But jesus, it felt good to be so manhandled by him, naked with his long beautiful uncut dick.

And there was an enormous -- maybe 300 pounds -- very hairy blond-all-over guy who was like a bear or a bull, he was so strong. The room was tiny and when he needed to get to the other side of the table, he would pick up the whole table with me on it and move it so he could get in a better position. And I always felt wrung out like an old wash cloth when he finished.

There were a few male hustlers who hung out there, but they were very discreet and did not operate with any degree of openness on the premises. I remember one very hot young guy who appeared to be straight and had an absolute horse dick that mesmerized me, and he followed me out one day and offered to let me suck it, for a price, of course, but alas I was young and too poor to hire him. I had to scrimp and save to have the cash to go once or twice a month.

But then they integrated the sexes so there were always women there and the men stopped going naked and started wearing swim trunks. Sigh.

Anonymous said...

But then they integrated the sexes so there were always women there...

Oh no!

Anonymous said...

Wonder how long it will take Ted to spin a Toothy story out of this from his exclusive inside "sources".

Anonymous said...

Was bath story posted om OMG? Because Ted reads only OMG!

Anonymous said...

I think so, but SK quickly put up a new post to bury the story because "Bath house Jake" doesn't fit in with her "Hubby & 5 BTs Jake" fiction

Anonymous said...

It is hard to raise 5 kids, Jake was there to get massage, to stay fit. That was easy!

Anonymous said...

Nobody buried anything at OMG, the bath house story was discussed.

Anonymous said...

Troll is working overtime I see. Jake so obviously gay now he just cant handle it.

Anonymous said...

12:43 AM - there are no troll posts. No one said anything about "straight" Jake. WTF is wrong with you?

Jake Gyllenhaal Went To A Bathhouse said...

Mexican guy: "Your uniform...it's so tight." Jake Gyllenhaal: "Oh, hey boy haaaayyy." New York Post reports:

Jake Gyllenhaal had hoped for a nice, relaxing steam when he turned up at the 10th Street baths last week -- but arrived to find the place packed with power players in robes. Organizers of Elit by Stoli’s male-only gathering had taken over the place, with white towel-wearing guests including Nobu’s Richie Notar, venture capitalist Adam Dell, Niche Media founder Jason Binn, David Rabin and Lance Broumand. We’re told they, ahem, “let it all hang out.”

I was going to write something to make this story sound more gay, but I just checked, and it appears that's impossible.

idontlikeyouinthatway.com

^^ said...

Cute photo :)

^^ said...

Jake has a problem keeping his hands off cute men!

Anonymous said...

I was going to write something to make this story sound more gay, but I just checked, and it appears that's impossible.

LOL! Gay is OK! :)

Anonymous said...

You can be sure that Jake's PR will now go into damage control mode after the bath house story about the private all men's party he "accidently" walked into. The story almost gives the hint of Jake being gay and it's well known how his PR teams runs from that. I'm betting we know get a bunch of same entertainment media stories of Jake being seen out with several different women in the next few days. You know, so they can show what a Ladies Man Jake is. Also bet that they must be turning up the pressure for him to pick a new beard. Surprised they have allowed him to go so long without one. Wonder if Jake will ever grow a spine and do his own thing. It seemed like he was doing it for the past few months because he has been sans new beard, but wonder if it will continue.

Anonymous said...

Jake's PR will now go into damage control mode

Oh no, not a new beard!

Hot male in steam room said...

Wonder if Jake will ever grow a spine and do his own thing.

Fingers crossed!

Anonymous said...

At this point I feel like blogs are just out to harass him

Anonymous said...

LOL! The "blogs" didn't front up to the 10th Street Bath house full of naked men!

Women said...

But then they integrated the sexes so there were always women there and the men stopped going naked and started wearing swim trunks. Sigh.

Don't be shy on our account! ;)

Jake said...

If a house full of naked men is wrong I don't want to be right!

Anonymous said...

Congrats to Sean! :)

Play it again, Sam said...

♫♪If a house full of naked men is wrong ... I don't want to be right!♪♫

I love it! :)

Jake's PR said...

We aren't paid enough for this!

Anonymous said...

Surprised they have allowed him to go so long without one.

Jake won't be promoting new movie anytime soon so he can take bearding brake.

Anonymous said...

Why shouldn't the blogs pick on him for being closeted. Jake made a fool of himself and a target with his over-the-top bearding with Reese and Taylor.

Anonymous said...

No comments of Jake's visit to the Bath House at OMG? Who would have thought.

Anonymous said...

I'm sure that's because J&A believers think that Jake's visit to some spa isn't noteworthy :)

Anonymous said...

ultrateg Donny Tsang
oh hey took me 70mins to get to work (normally 25mins) & saw jake gyllenhaal on the 2 train
1 hour ago

Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday Ramona! :)

Anonymous said...

arikowen Arik Owen
Jake Gyllenhaal came into my work yesterday, we clicked I think ;)
13 hours ago

New York City
Professional model. Hopeless romantic. Healthy mind, body, and soul
http://facebook.com/arik.williams

Anonymous said...

Surprised they have allowed him to go so long without one.
Jake won't be promoting new movie anytime soon so he can take bearding brake.


... bearding break :)

Texas airport? said...

courtneykuyk Courtney Kuykendall
Bye bye Texas. #homesweethome <3
1 hour ago

courtneykuyk Courtney Kuykendall
Omg met Sophia bush! :) http://twitpic.com/6unxzj
20 minutes ago

http://twitter.com/#!/courtneykuyk

Anonymous said...

No comments of Jake's visit to the Bath House at OMG? Who would have thought.

Funny that. I posted a comment on OMG about the bathhouse. Special K had comment moderation on, so I didn't expect to see my comment straight away. It has now been 5 hours, and she is obviously approving other posts, but mine has not appeared.

Prairiegirl had a big tanty yesterday about censorship on WFT2 - she is just pissed because she can't ring up Jackie and get posts deleted, like she does on OMG.

PG: And frankly, I don't care to read anything brought over from a site where anything and everything I have put up has been deleted/censored no matter how mild it is.

Or posted by someone who allows everyone and their relatives to trash Special, m, M&M and myself.

In fact, all but encourages it.

Anonymous said...

Thanks 3:41 PM, just as I thought, lol.

Anonymous said...

I can't be assed going back and getting the exact post, but a few days ago, someone posted that the reason why PG is so pissed is because she is frustrated that she can't control what is said here on WFT. I think that post hit the nail on the head.

She is so frustrated that she is now lashing out at poor Jersey Tom because he dared post a snippet of the Sean Maher article from this site. Girl needs to chillax.

Anonymous said...

Jesus, Mary, Joseph and the Donkey, do they ever stop and think?

“Hung” Star Thomas Jane: I Used to Be a Gay Prostitute said...

Thomas Jane, who plays a gigolo on the new HBO series “Hung,” revealed today that he used to turn tricks while living as a homeless teen in Los Angeles.

Jane says he was an out-of-work actor, and often performed sexual acts with men to make ends meet.

The actor tells the L.A. Times, “When I was a kid out here in L.A., I was homeless. I didn’t have any money and I was living in my car.”

“I wasn’t averse to going down to Santa Monica Boulevard and letting a guy buy me a sandwich. Know what I mean?”

Jane says, “Being a young artist and broke in Los Angeles, I was exploring my sexual identity,” noting that the experience was productive for him in that it “blew the doors off of my conventional upbringing and thinking and opened up possibilities for me.”

The actor, who has been married twice – most recently to Patricia Arquette – says he doesn’t regret his sexual “experimentation,” stating, “Until you’ve tasted the food, you don’t know whether you’ll like it or not, as my mom always said.”

Anonymous said...

Until you’ve tasted the food, you don’t know whether you’ll like it or not, as my mom always said.

Sorry Thomas, the very idea of some food makes me wanna puke, I really don't need to "experiment".

reposting said...

OMG posters who post here HATE the fact that they can't control WFT2 comments, can't delete them and can't stop people from pointing out lack of logic and sense in their theories. That silly and transparent crap "you are obsessed with OMG / with me" comes from that frustration.

September 30, 2011 11:45 AM

Anonymous said...

Jackie should just rename this blog Bashing OMG because after about 3 or 4 posts about something else that's all anyone here wants to do.

This place used to be a lot of fun, it's a shame to see it just turn into a bully pulpit.

Anonymous said...

OMG posters who post here HATE the fact that they can't control WFT2 comments, can't delete them and can't stop people.

Can't be said enough, and it's a great relief to be able to post freely. OMG is a great site, but a couple of people spoil it. Talk about a bully pulpit. The J. Edgar film discussion was a great example.

Anonymous said...

6:06 PM - you are projecting. Discussing OMG and OMG posters isn't bashing.
Don't blame WTF2 and posters who have the opportunity to say what they think - I'm not going to pretend, I will say and repeat that Special K posts lies and ignores facts in order to support her J&A wishful thinking.

Anonymous said...

I think they're getting a handle on things over there - I notice a lot more "comment moderation" on, and I don't think it's just for Jack's comments.

Anonymous said...

Dogmas don't work. Ever.

Anonymous said...

This place used to be a lot of fun, it's a shame to see it just turn into a bully pulpit.
+
The blog administrator of this site knowingly provides a safe haven for trolls.
+
I find it extremely intriguing to observe what comments the blog administrator of this site chooses to delete and which ones are allowed to remain.
+
So LOLLLLLLL again at the level of your obsession. (Destiny)
=
bullshit posted by OMG posters, trying to discourage people from discussing their crazy theories.

Anonymous said...

PG's standing firm to JerseyTom about her comments:

The oldest Gyllenichol is 3 yrs old, the youngest under 1. I'm trying to give these guys some time to get their family assembled and situated and then see what they do. But they are not going to come out right now while I believe they have another one on the way. The glare of the media would be circus-like.
//////
I'm going to stand by them for now and still offer support until I see signs that they're done popping the buns out of the oven.


WTF?????? Is this woman delusional? Who's carrying the bun in the oven? Last time I look, Austin nor Jake look pregnant.
Does she think someone can just go to the store and order a surrogate baby every year? Then don't take care of the child when the 1st months and and year are a vital time in a newborns life.

This woman needs help.

Jersey Tom said...

Anonymous said...
Jackie should just rename this blog Bashing OMG because after about 3 or 4 posts about something else that's all anyone here wants to do.

This place used to be a lot of fun, it's a shame to see it just turn into a bully pulpit.



ITA. This blog has gotten ridiculous. Thats is a shame. It used to be fun. Not sure what has happened. I think Jackie had good intentions but I think the haters have taken over.

Jersey Tom said...

Not sure who posts here anymore. Whether it be trolls, Babbleheads or old DC posters but you women need to grow up. You haven't destroyed OMG and you never will. I hope Jackie can get this site back together. I would miss it.

Anonymous said...

Jersey Tom,

people who know that Jake is gay and that he broke up with Austin long ago post here.
People who know a lot about Jake, Austin, bearding post here.
People who love gossip and like to know the truth beyond PR shit post here.
People who are insulted by OMG nonsense fiction post here.
No one in the right mind will suport OMG wishful thinking just because you too believe that Jake and Austin are gay.

Anonymous said...

Whether it be trolls, Babbleheads or old DC posters but you women need to grow up.

You need to wake up to reality. What trolls? People are trolls because they don't believe in BTs? Well?

Jersey Tom said...

Why can't you just accept what other people believe. Everyone can believe whatever they want. I believe 100% that Jake is gay. That is all I care about now. Not sure what else is going on inhis life. I also began to believe Jake and Austin may have broke up but when I saw the Leadville picture I chnaged my mind. I think they very well may still be together. Some people very very much believe that Jake and Austin have kids. I respect that. No one else from DC, DL or GB has to believe it. Either does anyone who has held a grudge againt OMG. Give it a rest.

Anonymous said...

Why can't you just accept what other people believe.

I'm an atheist. I accept and have no problem with people who believe in God.

But I have a problem with people who ignore common sense, ignore facts and claim that insane fiction has something to do with reality and with real poeple. And who are insulted when other people point out their delusional bullshit.

Anonymous said...

when I saw the Leadville picture I chnaged my mind

Sure you did. Special K lies about Austin being in that picture and the rest of you pretend the same. Pathetic.

Anonymous said...

P.S. All you have to do is zoom and compare that photo with other photo where you can clearly see Austin's ear. That is enough to see for zourself that man in Leadville pic isn't Austin (not to mention that Austin is taller). But OMG doesn't care about facts or truth.

Anonymous said...

I respect that.

Unfortunately I can't respect anything about OMG. I don't understand what's wrong with you, why are you so desperate about J&A that you are willing to make fools of yourself like that (see 6:50 PM post for example).

Jersey Tom said...

I don't think anyone at OMG is making a fool of themselves. That was Austin in Leadville. PLus I am not saying that the girls are wrong about kids. I don't know. It does bother me to think if they exist that Jake would lie and hide them.

Anonymous said...

That was Austin in Leadville.

It wasn't. That man's ear doesn't match Austin's ear. You ignore simple facts like that and then say "don't think anyone at OMG is making a fool of themselves". It would be funny if it wasn't sad.

Anonymous said...

PLus I am not saying that the girls are wrong about kids. I don't know.

You don't know? You don't know that Ted mentioned only BT and that he mentioned, more than once, that there is one BT? You didn't notice that there is nothing to support BTx4 theory? You didn't notice that Jake and Austin don't give a shit about being in the same city and the same time?

Jersey Tom said...

I am lucky to know where the heck I am some days. I certainly don't know where Jake and Austin are but Austin was in Leadville with Jake. To much similaries in that pic. Any angle can make an ear look different. Maybe Abby from NCIS could tell us. LOL! Loosen up ur staring to sound like a looney:-)

Anonymous said...

Sorry Tom, but you and OMG sound like loonies who spent hours and hours analysing photos that could prove "J and A are together" speculations, but who refuse to do that with Leadville photo because a lie about that photo is needed for J/A fiction. Transparent and pathetic.

Anonymous said...

The only posts that get deleted at OMG are those using nasty words and name-calling.

The same apparently can't be said for WFT2, which apparently deletes posts based just on where/who the post is coming from.

Meanwhile people who haven't posted at OMG in years continue to beat a dead horse, whining about how they don't have freedom to say what they want over there, all while claiming OMG is too crazy of a place for them to even bother with.

Why people continue to fret over a handful of people whose opinions they don't like is beyond me. It's not going to change anything.

Anonymous said...

Tom,

what is your explanation for Jake being 2 weekends in NYC without Austin? Austin has better things to do than be with his boyfriend / husband and "kids"?

Anonymous said...

The same apparently can't be said for WFT2, which apparently deletes posts based just on where/who the post is coming from.

LOL, same shit again :) (see 6:26 PM)
Post just one example of such WFT2 comment. Come on, I've asked that few days ago and there was no answer, no example, no nothing.

Anonymous said...

Why people continue to fret over a handful of people whose opinions they don't like is beyond me.

I discuss what I feel like discussing - just like you.

Anonymous said...

Why people continue to fret over a handful of people whose opinions they don't like is beyond me.

It's beyond me why OMG posters don't like when other people comment their opinions. Are you ashamed of something? Are you hiding something?

Lots of love for Sting’s 60th said...

Jake Gyllenhaal charmed Melanie Griffith and Don Johnson’s daughter, Dakota Johnson, at Sting’s 60th birthday bash, and spies said the up-and-coming actress looked enchanted by the “Source Code” star.

“She was trying to play it cool, but looked very smitten,” said a witness, adding that Griffith kept a watchful eye over her at Sting’s Beacon Theatre concert.

Gyllenhaal has been seen hanging with a string of Hollywood starlets after splitting with Taylor Swift in January. And Dakota has no fewer than six new films dropping, including “21 Jump Street” with Jonah Hill and “The Five-Year Engagement.”



We didn't have to wait long for the hetero/pussy hound Jake stories to appear after the Steam bathhouse episode. LMAO

LOL said...

One of Dakota Johnson's upcoming movies is called "Gay Dude"

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_Dude

Anonymous said...

And Dakota has no fewer than six new films dropping, including “21 Jump Street” with Jonah Hill and “The Five-Year Engagement.

Girl needs publicity.

Anonymous said...

She's born in Austin, Texas.

wikipedia said...

She checked into rehab for drug and alcohol addiction for 30 days in late 2007 (when she was 18). She is in a long-term relationship with musician and HoneyChild band member Noah Gersh.

Anonymous said...

ShiningxMariexo -Yashira MASLOW
So my friend just saw jake gyllenhaal & didn't even go say hi !! I should smack him when I see him but this is why I love NY :D
13 hours ago

Anonymous said...

ari_zap Aracelis Zapata
awesome day -- saw Jake gyllenhaal, found the perfect fall boot, eating my favorite dinner, I can keep going! life is good! :)
9 hours ago

Anonymous said...

Kia_Spice Dakia
Saw jake gyllenhall on the train. We locked eyes. Yea he wanted me. Lol
13 hours ago

Anonymous said...

Unseen candids from december 2010 - December 5th - Sophia and Austin visiting the Angelika movie theatre

http://www.sophia-b.net/gallery/thumbnails.php?album=981

Anonymous said...

ConstanceOTH Constance Ly
@SophiaBush Why doesn't @AUS10NICHOLS tweet a lot like before Sophia ?
3 hours ago

Sophia, tweeting like crazy said...

Because he's lazy ass who makes me look bad!

Austin said...

Bitch.

Anonymous said...

Saw jake gyllenhall on the train. We locked eyes. Yea he wanted me. Lol
13 hours ago

October 04, 2011 5:26 AM

Please Colter was trying only to discover if you were the mysterious assassin that wants to make the train explode

Anonymous said...

LOL :)

Anonymous said...

The oldest Gyllenichol is 3 yrs old, the youngest under 1. I'm trying to give these guys some time to get their family assembled and situated and then see what they do. But they are not going to come out right now while I believe they have another one on the way. The glare of the media would be circus-like.
////// I'm going to stand by them for now and still offer support until I see signs that they're done popping the buns out of the oven.


There are no words.

Anonymous said...

She (Dakota Johnson) checked into rehab for drug and alcohol addiction for 30 days in late 2007 (when she was 18). She is in a long-term relationship with musician and HoneyChild band member Noah Gersh.

Bad bearding material, lol.

Anonymous said...

Gay = lonely and sad existence , got out of that lifestyle and feel much better

Anonymous said...

I think Jake would come out if he believed that being out wouldn't hurt his career - same is true for many gay people.

Anonymous said...

Gay = lonely and sad existence , got out of that lifestyle and feel much better

Being gay isn't a lifestyle. You didn't choose to be straight/gay/bi/ asexual, and gay people didn't choose to be gay either.

Anonymous said...

Hi people,has "Crazy Stupid Love" worked well in USA? In my country a disaster, and Drive also is going badly, I know that I am out of topic but it seemed that Ryan had to be the new great thing to HW and instead he is disappointing, what do you think of it? (if you have already spoken and I have not read it I apologize in advance)

Anonymous said...

Ryan is good actor, but not a movie star, he can't open a movie.

will make small profit said...

Crazy, Stupid, Love.

Production Budget: $50 million

Domestic Total: $82,763,540 (USA)
Foreign: $44,500,000
= Worldwide: $127,263,540

Anonymous said...

Drive

Production Budget: $15 million
Domestic: $27,003,029
Foreign: $2,400,000

= Worldwide: $29,403,029

http://boxofficemojo.com/movies/?id=drive2011.htm

Anonymous said...

Domestic Total: $82,763,540 (USA)
Foreign: $44,500,000
= Worldwide: $127,263,540

it is not quite badly however nothing exceptional but even so badly right?

Anonymous said...

And his The Ides of March with George will be out this week. Good, but not great reviews. Ryan works a lot, other 3 movies to be released soon.

Anonymous said...

it is not quite badly however nothing exceptional but even so badly right?

Worldwide $127,263,540 = 63 million for the studio.
budget 50 + marketing 20 = 70

63 - 70 = -7 million at the moment

Movie will make small profit.

Anonymous said...

it seemed that Ryan had to be the new great thing to HW and instead he is disappointing

Wouldn't call this disappointing. As long as Ryan continues to give great performances and work a lot he'll be fine.

Anonymous said...

The Ides of March has opened the Show of the cinema in Venice, the critical ones have said that the film was decent but nothing exceptional, however Ryan has had good critiques

Anonymous said...

Wouldn't call this disappointing. As long as Ryan continues to give great performances and work a lot he'll be fine.

October 04, 2011 10:52 AM

yes I'm agree with you I wanted to tell a disappointment the point of view of the box office, nothing to say on his cleverness

Anonymous said...

Ryan needs a bit hit movie BEFORE anyone could consider him a box-office draw.

Anonymous said...

Ryan needs a hit movie BEFORE anyone could consider him a box-office draw.

Anonymous said...

Crazy, Stupid, Love, Drive and Ides of March are more ensemble cast films. Considering the stellar casts and the good reviews the numbers are pretty mediocre.

Anonymous said...

Jake should work more.

Anonymous said...

however it is more and more difficult to make a film of success that is not a cartoon for families, the super heroes have also stewed, we see what it combines Batman

Anonymous said...

I think in this economy people are not going to the movies to see middle of the road pictures; why spend the money. Only family movies and "event" movies seem to be doing okay.

Anonymous said...

I think in this economy people are not going to the movies to see middle of the road pictures; why spend the money. Only family movies and "event" movies seem to be doing okay.

October 04, 2011 11:52 AM

yes this is true,besides are less and less the names that guarantee a sure success, also among the directors whom would ever have thought about a failure of Spielberg

Happy Birthday Stephen! said...

FiserableMucker Philip Huntley
Owner of the genitals that spunked out Maggie and Jake, Stephen Gyllenhaal is 62 today.
3 hours ago

LMAO! said...

Blake Lively, Leonardo DiCaprio Split

It was fun while it lasted!

After five months together, Blake Lively and Leonardo DiCaprio have parted ways, reps for both stars confirm exclusively to Us Weekly. The pair "remain friends," Lively and DiCaprio's reps added.

First spotted getting cozy while aboard Steven Spielberg's yacht in Monte Carlo on May 17 during the Cannes Film Festival, the couple embarked on a whirlwind, super-luxe summer romance that spanned the globe. During their time together, the Gossip Girl actress, 24, and Inception star, 36, took their PDA parade to romantic locales ranging from Venice, Italy to Anaheim, Calif. to NYC. In late August, Lively even flew thousands of miles from the U.S. to Sydney, Australia -- for a quick weekend -- where her beau was filming The Great Gatsby.

Weeks before he and Lively became an item, DiCaprio and model Bar Refaeli called it quits on their on-and-off, five-year relationship. Back in October 2010, Lively and Gossip Girl costar Penn Badgley ended their three-year romance.

The pair's recent split is sure to come as a surprise to some DiCaprio pals, one of whom told Us they'd "never seen him like this with a girl." Back in June, the couple were ensconced in DiCaprio's L.A. home, where Lively "spent the whole time baking....Leo's never dated a girl who can cook. And he's smitten!" The duo also bonded with one another's parents.

Echoed another insider this summer: "I bet they get engaged in six months."

As for Lively, she's long said she never lets public opinion affect her relationships.

"I have a strong sense of myself. That gives me a sense of security, you know? Every relationship you have, you're learning and growing and taking something from that," the actress recently told Glamour magazine. "So for me, it's never been too dramatic of a thing when something ends."

http://www.usmagazine.com/celebritynews/news/blake-lively-leonardo-dicaprio-split-2011410

Anonymous said...

May 17 to October 4 - 4,5 months. Still too long for a trashy beard like Blake Lively.

Jake's PR said...

Good news about Blake Lively!

Anonymous said...

May 17 to October 4 - 4,5 months. Still too long for a trashy beard like Blake Lively.

I don't know anything about Blake Lively. What makes her trashy?

Anonymous said...

poor Blake! who knows' if her heart will go on?

Anonymous said...

LOL!

Anonymous said...

I see that the troll is still ranting about Jake being anything but gay. The troll ignores everything Ted has said about Toothy.

Anonymous said...

2:30 AM - I don't understand why you keep repeating that obvious lie.

Jake is gay with and without Ted. Jakei is gay with and without Austin. Suggestion that people who don't believe everything Ted said about Toothy and BT are trolls or people who think Jake is straight or people who are dangerous for JiG fandom is what turned OMG J&A believers into silly, delusional liars.

Anonymous said...

Jackie would not have deleted PG's posts if she didn't feel they needed to be. PG is saying her deleted posts here were benign - right. There's no way to tell now since they were deleted, plus she posts anon. The one I saw that eventually got deleted was the usual "someone is having a conversation with themselves" which is a taunt/insult, and we've read it before. Clever? Not.

Anonymous said...

She can't understand why she doesn't get the same preferential treatment she gets over at OMG, where she can say anything she wants and noone does anything. I think it's starting to wear thin because there's a lot more comment moderation going on. She couldn't even be big enough to give credit for the Sean Maher post that Tom posted at OMG, since WFT2 has had the nerve to delete her posts. Yes Tom, someone does need to grow up.

Anonymous said...

Waiting for the "obsession" post in response (you're slipping) - just callin' 'em like I see 'em. ;)

Anonymous said...
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Anonymous said...

For starters, beards are trashy.

Anonymous said...

She can't understand why she doesn't get the same preferential treatment she gets over at OMG, where she can say anything she wants and noone does anything.

For a church usher, she has one heck of a potty mouth on her (just another example of her hypocrisy). She threw a tanty the other day because Destiny was agreeing with another poster who she believed was "Jack". So because she perceived that Destiny wasn't "on her side", pee g had a dummy spit. BT probably acts more maturely than this oxygen thief.

Anonymous said...

She (PG) can't understand why she doesn't get the same preferential treatment she gets over at OMG

BINGO!!!

Anonymous said...

She threw a tanty the other day because Destiny was agreeing with another poster who she believed was "Jack".

I'm not surprised. PG doesn't care what's really going on with Jake, Austin and "BTs", she cares only about defending J&A&BTs dogma.

Twitter said...

mayumintolor mayumi yamamoto
Lock on to JG: Some of new old pics of Jake Gyllenhaal, and What'...

http://mayumintolor-lockontojg.blogspot.com/2011/10/some-of-new-old-pics-of-jake-gyllenhaal.html

^^ said...

Very old photos :)

Looks like someone would be happy with Dakota Johnson as Jake's new "girlfriend".

Blake said...

I'm off contract...er I mean I'm available <3

Dakota said...

What?!? Get your hands off him, bitch!

Anonymous said...

Oh God boys I don't succeed in opening the pics someone can describe her to me pleeeease?

Anonymous said...

Her = Dakota? Cute girl :)

Anonymous said...

thank you so much ! :)

Anonymous said...

You're welcome!

Anonymous said...

She couldn't even be big enough to give credit for the Sean Maher post that Tom posted at OMG, since WFT2 has had the nerve to delete her posts.

LOL! Poor Tom :)

Anonymous said...

DonnaDisko Donna Dragotta
Just realized I was running next to jake gyllenhaal (whatever) in prospect park #brooklyn
33 minutes ago

LOL! said...

Supposedly Blake is now hooking up with Ryan Reynolds because she visited him in Boston, where he's filming a movie. Is the Green Lantern DVD coming out already? [Boston Herald]

Blake Lively makes tracks to Hub with Ryan Reynolds

Over the weekend, the two were spotted at sushi palace O Ya in the Leather District, and the next afternoon while Ryan was shooting “R.I.P.D.” in the Financial District, Blake dropped $270 on groceries at Five Seventy Market in the South End. According to our spies, either Reynolds recruited Blake to fill his fridge or she plans to stay for a while!

“She bought general groceries, mostly healthy stuff,” a store source told the Track. “And a couple of pumpkins. Some oats and grains, fruits and vegetables, and toothpaste. She bought a lot of stuff.”

The staff at Five Seventy claim the “Gossip Girl” was “super nice,” and always the style maven, Serena van der Woodsen’s alter ego was “dressed really nicely.”

Seeing as RyReyn wasn’t there to help Blake carry her loot, one of Five Seventy’s employees was happy to help the actress schlep her bags to the car, which was parked around the corner, we’re told.

The couple’s rumored romance began during their filming of “The Green Lantern,” when Ryan was still married but estranged from ScarJo back then.

Blake’s publicist, Leslie Sloane Zelnik, never responded to our queries about the budding romance.

Anonymous said...

Blake doesn't frequent also with Rock Hudson just because it is dead

Anonymous said...

DonnaDisko Donna Dragotta
Just realized I was running next to jake gyllenhaal (whatever) in prospect park #brooklyn
33 minutes ago

October 05, 2011 1:09 PM

Donna Drago run with Donnie Darko cool!

Anonymous said...

Blake doesn't frequent also with Rock Hudson just because it is dead

LOL.

Anonymous said...

tinamok Tina Mok
@ @Kirsty_Brohier nice sneak peek of what's happening in the show & victor is cute too!! Soho apple where we saw Jake Gyllenhaal you must go!
24 minutes ago

lol said...

_kris Kris Hedstrom
I just saw Jake Gyllenhaal at the coffee shop. So, of course, I touched his beard. Baby soft, you guys.
49 minutes ago

Anonymous said...

The couple’s rumored romance began during their filming of “The Green Lantern,” when Ryan was still married but estranged from ScarJo back then.

LOL for PR damage control attempt!

Anonymous said...

I have just seen "Rise of the Planet of the Apes" the movie has been unbelievable, Franco was good enough, but the monkey has definitely sent him in the park, I say oscar for the monkey!!

Anonymous said...

RIP Steve Jobs

Tweet said...

carolinedelasun Caroline Sun
Just walked by Jake Gyllenhal in Park Slope. Almost said "Hi" because I thought he was a friend I recognized. Nope, he's a movie star.
6 hours ago

Twitter said...

JennyBradley Jenny Bradley
@celery2377 Wait, wait, wait. You mean Jake Gyllenhall isn't actually my boyfriend? And since I'm in denial about that, I'M HIS BEARD??
7 hours ago

Anonymous said...

LOL :)

Anonymous said...

Just walked by Jake Gyllenhal in Park Slope.

No BTs with Jake?

Anonymous said...

Jake doesn't need babies when he's got coffee beans!

lol poor Soapfia said...

@SophiaBush
Sophia Bush
We lost one of the greatest geniuses of our time today. He will be missed. His impact is felt by each of us. His wis... say.ly/AnKOxl

Reply:
ThatMeanTool ThatMeanTool
@
@SophiaBush Little late to the party Sophia..... You were probably busy scolding your fans. I bet you have a ton of cats.
7 hours ago

Anonymous said...

Some people are so ungrateful! lol

Monday said...

ari_zap Aracelis Zapata
meeting Jake gyllenhaal for coffee... no biggie! Hahhaaa! My day was made today! http://lockerz.com/s/144120713
3 Oct

Anonymous said...

A-ha! I know that look! Austin was there with Jake. I can recognise his ears even without seeing them!

OT LMAO! said...

Dog afraid of Julia Roberts

Good instincts!

Anonymous said...

oh my God even Richard Gere when had to kiss her was so frightened!

Atticus said...

Dog afraid of Julia Roberts

Hot! Anyone has his number?

jake said...

Atticus! have I not taught anything to you? you have to make to see only you with dogs blonde females and with the pedigree!

OOPS!!! said...

Rachel Maddow revealed her conflicted feelings about gay marriage in a new cover interview with the Hollywood Reporter.

The interview was published Wednesday. In it, Maddow said that, though she and her longtime partner, artist Susan Mikula, knew many people who had gotten married, the two didn't "feel any urgency" to join them. The reason, she said, was that she is ambivalent about the assimilationist aspect of gay marriage.

"I feel that gay people not being able to get married for generations, forever, meant that we came up with alternative ways of recognizing relationships," she told THR. "And I worry that if everybody has access to the same institutions that we lose the creativity of subcultures having to make it on their own. And I like gay culture."

Maddow has, of course, been a staunch supporter of same sex marriage rights. She even incurred some liberal wrath for continuing to note President Obama's opposition to marriage. However, she has not previously expressed her misgivings in such plain terms. In fact, during a 2010 interview, she said that she would "maybe" and "conceivably" get married.

In the interview, Maddow also revealed her love for George Clooney. She even broke one of her longstanding rules by agreeing to film a cameo for his new movie, "The Ides Of March."

"It's really hard to say no to him," she said. "So there I am, I'm a Hollywood sucker. I'll do anything for George Clooney."

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/10/05/rachel-maddow-gay-marriage_n_996813.html

Anonymous said...

"I feel that gay people not being able to get married for generations, forever, meant that we came up with alternative ways of recognizing relationships," she told THR. "And I worry that if everybody has access to the same institutions that we lose the creativity of subcultures having to make it on their own. And I like gay culture."

That's too stupid for words.

Anonymous said...

Maddow is rich enough to care more about creativity of gay subculture than good life for gay people.

destiny said...

It's not stupid, there are a lot of people in the gay community who feel that way. Among other things, a lot of people feel that having certain rights shouldn't be dependent upon your marital status, or who feel that being shoehorned into traditional roles is not the way to go.

There are plenty of people in the gay community who are not interested in marriage, and some are afraid that if gay marriage becomes the norm they will feel pressure to conform.

I absolutely get what she means about the attraction of subcultures, and how something is lost if you go mainstream.

destiny said...

It's not a matter of feeling that gays shouldn't have a good life, it's a matter of feeling that everyone should have a good life, regardless of the way they choose to live their own life. Gay/straight, married/living with a partner, having children/remaining childless, on and on.

Anonymous said...

It's not stupid, there are a lot of people in the gay community who feel that way.

Number doesn't matter. "A lot of people" doesn't turn something stupid into something smart.

Anonymous said...

There are plenty of people in the gay community who are not interested in marriage, and some are afraid that if gay marriage becomes the norm they will feel pressure to conform.

What are you talking about????????????????????????????

Anonymous said...

There are plenty of people in the gay community who are not interested in marriage, and some are afraid that if gay marriage becomes the norm they will feel pressure to conform.

As I've said, saying something like that is too stupid for words.

Anonymous said...

Looks like obvious things like "marriage equality is about equal rights for all people" should be repeated over and over again, even for someone like Destiny.

Anonymous said...

It's not a matter of feeling that gays shouldn't have a good life...

Please explain to Mr Clay Greene that marriage equality isn't really important because some gays don't care about getting married:

"Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place--wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77, who was in good health.

One evening, Harold fell down the front steps of their home and was taken to the hospital. Based on their medical directives alone, Clay should have been consulted in Harold's care from the first moment. Tragically, county and health care workers instead refused to allow Clay to see Harold in the hospital. The county then ultimately went one step further by isolating the couple from each other, placing the men in separate nursing homes.

Ignoring Clay's significant role in Harold's life, the county continued to treat Harold like he had no family and went to court seeking the power to make financial decisions on his behalf. Outrageously, the county represented to the judge that Clay was merely Harold's "roommate." The court denied their efforts, but did grant the county limited access to one of Harold's bank accounts to pay for his care.

What happened next is even more chilling.

Without authority, without determining the value of Clay and Harold's possessions accumulated over the course of their 20 years together or making any effort to determine which items belonged to whom, the county took everything Harold and Clay owned and auctioned off all of their belongings. Adding further insult to grave injury, the county removed Clay from his home and confined him to a nursing home against his will. The county workers then terminated Clay and Harold's lease and surrendered the home they had shared for many years to the landlord."

http://www.bilerico.com/2010/04/sonoma_county_ca_separates_elderly_gay_couple_and.php

Anonymous said...

s not stupid, there are a lot of people in the gay community who feel that way. Among other things, a lot of people feel that having certain rights shouldn't be dependent upon your marital status, or who feel that being shoehorned into traditional roles is not the way to go.

There are plenty of people in the gay community who are not interested in marriage, and some are afraid that if gay marriage becomes the norm they will feel pressure to conform.

I absolutely get what she means about the attraction of subcultures, and how something is lost if you go mainstream.


Destiny I have not agree with you on almost anything over the years but, I agree with you totally on this one.

Every gay person/couple don't want to get married, but I does not mean they should not have the right to get married.

Anonymous said...

Among other things, a lot of people feel that having certain rights shouldn't be dependent upon your marital status, or who feel that being shoehorned into traditional roles is not the way to go.

Certain rights? That's so ignorant. Gay people must have equal civil rights as everyone else.

Anonymous said...

Every gay person/couple don't want to get married

LOL! You didn't notice that every straight person/couple don't want to get married either? Look around.

Anonymous said...

^^^

Don't understand your point

Anonymous said...

there are plenty of straight couples who have no interest in getting married. For now anyway.

Although, they CAN!

Anonymous said...

That's my point.

I'm poster 10:46am / 10:10am

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